By Thoughts of a Black Woman
I am of the impression that a lot of Black men do not value Black women.
Now, hear me out. This lack of value goes back to slavery and is associated with inferiority complex. Yes, the enslavement of Black people was the most dehumanizing act ever recorded in history.
White men openly raped and abused Black women while parading White women as trophies in the faces of Black men. It has been imprinted on our minds an in our culture that anything Black “nah really good”. The thinking goes into relationships.
The killings that are being reported in the news are the extremes, but domestic abuse is taking place in many of our Caribbean homes. In the interest of brevity, I will stick to St. Vincent and the Grenadines. A lot of men are emotionally, verbally and physically abusing their women, and some women speak out while others choose to stay quiet.
Black women, stay lit. Know your history and know your value in Christ.
A lot of Black men don’t really value most Black women! Yes, they might have children with you, build houses with you and even marry you, but deep down inside, you are there because they feel that you are good enough for them, not because they feel you are good!
And that is why a man can use a cutlass, a knife or a gun on a woman who has already carried his child. If given the opportunity, you will see how many men will move on to “greener pastures”. I believe this is one of the reasons why cheating is so prevalent.
When 106 years old McLaurin met President Barack Obama and his wife, I will never forget one of the things she said.
“A Black president with a Black wife!” she exclaimed. Why? More often than not, most Black men who attain such a status will not have a Black wife.
Once again, I urge women of my nation to know your history and know your worth in Christ, and I urge men of my nation to really reflect on your value system before you take on the responsibility of someone else’s girl child.
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